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During the course of our conversation, I explained some important differences between Asian and Western cultures to him.com. Logically, if you are not considered "Family," you are not significant to their survival; therefore, not of any vital importance.If the money doesn't materialize, the parents throw in the "ultimate guilt factor" (something shunned in the West) and quickly remind the adult children of all the sacrifices made to raise them. It's common for an adult Thai person (even in their mid-twenties or early thirties), especially unmarried adults, to remain in their parents' home; saving a lot of money by avoiding big rent bills and large appliance purchases. So, as soon as the child can earn money, Thai parents expect money from them."Saam Nuk Bun Khun" is an integral part of Thai culture.""Experiences from 'The Flow' (3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and Mistakes made in Haste.Asian countries have developed their cultures over thousands of years; an ingrained culture that is resistant to any quick, drastic changes. Physical contact (outside of the contact sport's arena) is reserved for close relatives, friends, and lovers.
The only exception to this rule is the minor percentage of affluent Thais who don't need the financial support of their children.."- Family Bonds of Steel -Over the millennia, Asians have survived overpopulation, poverty, and wars mainly by maintaining a culture that fosters firm familial bonds - bonds that are outrageously rigid and obligatory by Western standards.""How Dare She! Out of Desperation I Learned How to Forgive""Remember Who You Are!""Need to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read on. Parents setup their personal budgets assuming that their children will provide monthly financial support for them - in perpetuity. In this way, the familial bonds are further "strengthened. Vurce Publishing.C. After our "beer and bullshit" session, he realized that he'd been blind to the many cultural differences I pointed out.g. To them, it (attempting a Western/Asian relationship) is not a hopeless venture., subways, buses, and rock concerts, etc. He asked me over for a couple of beers.- Invisible Comfort Zones -"Personal Freedom and Independence" are very difficult concepts for Asian people to understand.In fact, as radical as this may sound to Westerners, the "act of sex" can be as significant to an Asian woman as brushing her teeth or doing her nails - just something that "has to be done" and might be "semi-fun.In the West, as soon as children become adults, they are expected to provide for themselves. In fact, it's a supreme way of showing affection and regarded as a highly private action.From an early age, especially in big cities, Asians are sandwiched together (in a way that would be totally illegal in the West) in cars, buses, vans, jeepneys, taxis, trains, motorcycle taxis, etc. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places.- "Significance" in a Nutshell -1. They will work at any job (including prostitution) until exhaustion to send money to their parents. Money is not just "money" in Asia; it can mean EVERYTHING (life/death, love/hate, marriage/bachelorhood, happiness/sadness, etc.- Claustrophobia? Not in Asia -From the tiny apartments filled with a dozen people to the overloaded elevators and jam-packed supermarkets, Asians take hordes of people and physical contact between strangers as a normal part of life. In the West, avoiding unwarranted physical contact is the respectable and courteous thing to do.This becomes a difficult situation for a Western man dating an Asian woman.It was plain to see that he was still trying to live his life, especially in the relationship department, as though he were still in the West." But what he believes as some strong signs of affection and interest may mean nothing at all to the woman.But unseen sectors of privacy do not exist in Asia. They will live miserly - eating cheap food and living in a stifling, small apartment - to send money to their parents. Sure, many Asian countries are becoming more and more "Westernized" every year; but ASIA IS STILL ASIA. Unless they go to college, the children are no longer the responsibility of the parents.C.- Respect or Dependency? -From an early age, Thais are taught to "fit" into a deeply ingrained system of cultural dependency."Also, as insensitive as it may sound to Westerners - because of the widespread poverty, lack of personal privacy, dissimilar sexual and social mores; and most importantly, the totally different view about money in Asia, etc.Last week, a distraught Farang (Thai: foreigner) friend of mine called me.
Children depend on their parents well into adulthood.Of course, getting the attention and immediate physical contact from a beautiful Asian woman is delightful and VERY significant to the Western man., privacy, money, and sex) AND decides to remain in Asia, he/she will be forever confused, disappointed, taken advantage of, or chronically paranoid and angry.)So don't be surprised when your Asian girlfriend expects you to "show your love" by supporting her, her parents, and her younger sister or brother.). Release Date: 2008. Confused, hurt, and angry, he didn't know why every relationship he's had in Thailand has ended up in shambles. He seeks out and permits entrance into his "comfort zone.Please Note: Although the words "Thai" and "Thais" appear frequently, the cultural differences depicted in this article can be generalized (justifiably) to most other Asian countries (e.- Wise Advice to all Westerners -Never get between an Asian woman and her family - YOU WILL LOSE. Others respect this zone and will enter only with the permission of its owner. They are turned down for jobs and are quite alienated from the people around them (Asians and Farangs alike).A Westerner not accustomed to this cultural fact can easily Auto Parts Molding Suppliers decide that all Asians are rude - disrespectful to persons and property. Because of conditioning and culture, children will go to great lengths to show their parents how much they love and respect them.Regardless of the dismal statistics, thousands of people continue to enter into a Western/Asian relationship every year. - Hope for Love? -The combined effect of all the cultural differences proves insurmountable to most - leading to the quick, but common, demise of the Western/Asian relationship. He had just broke-up with his "nth" girlfriend." Pantejo and published internet-wide, keyword: [title of article] or "Carl Pantejo")Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.There truly is hope for my distraught Farang friend (or any other Westerner who has fallen in love with an Asian).To be fully considered "Family," financial support is expected.- Affection or not, significant or not? -Because of this fundamental difference in the core belief of privacy, interpersonal relationships can be fraught with miscommunication.
They are professionally successful and make many friends. Accept it and move on (or fight it and attract misery).The following article outlines the points I raised during our discussion.""Experiences from 'The Flow' (9): New Girlfriend, New Life. Where there's a will, there's a way.g.But, whether the Thai adult is living with his parents or not, he/she will almost always give a portion of the monthly salary to the parents. For example, just because a woman is sitting close to a man (or in some kind of physical contact) does not automatically mean that they are romantic partners." PantejoFarang, Asia, Thai, culture, differences, core beliefs, money, sex, privacy, respect, crowds, mutual feeling. This is the unbreakable connection and respect for the parents., the Philippines, Malaysai, Cambodia, Vietnam, Indonesia, etc.Furthermore, if a suitor is equipped to support her and her family, an Asian woman will tolerate an unfulfilling relationship (for years or even a lifetime) with someone they absolutely DO NOT LIKE OR LOVE.It's not uncommon to see four or five people riding on tiny scooters.Note: If you want to read more about Asian and Western cultural differences, finding unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:"Experiences from 'The Flow': From Heartbreak to Happiness""Experiences from 'The Flow' (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity: FROM RELAPSE TO MIRACLES.The adult children enter the workforce and begin to support themselves."This woman MUST really like me," the man thinks.- The Big Mistake -The BIG MISTAKE that many Westerners make is this: In spite of their surroundings and personal interactions, they forget that Asia IS NOT the West.N. THEY ARE NOT OBLIGED TO SUPPORT THEIR AGING PARENTS.In a less dramatic fashion, younger siblings are treated (and supported) the same way as parents are. - an Asian woman will feel more "loved" by receiving some cash or an expensive gift instead of a satisfying romp in the sack!Again, this goes against the grain of most Westerners." (By Carl "J.3.And if the Westerner does not accept these basic cultural differences in most core beliefs (i. They just are.The differences are neither good nor bad.Farangs who never forget that they are foreigners and that "ASIA IS ASIA, NOT THE WEST" do well.), most Westerners still try to avoid any casual physical contact. He also saw that many of his relationship problems were the result of his cultural ignorance. Asians survive mainly through Family connections2.4.e.- Continued in "Experiences from 'The Flow" (11) -"Until next time, find 'The Flow' and jump in!"Your Friend in this Intrepid Journey called Life,Carl "J."Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that's good in life…"*Below is the tenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author.Stated bluntly, the vast majority (roughly 90%) of all Western/Asian relationships simply do not work out. In fact, anyone who has been in Asia for any length of time will tell you to chill out when you inevitably find a stranger comfortably sitting on YOUR parked motorcycle and behaving like it's his!That's just the way it is. Even when circumstances preclude maintaining this zone (e.Most Westerners have an invisible, 3' x 3' "comfort zone" of privacy around them.Farangs who stubbornly try to live their life in Asia as though it were the West suffer greatly. In their countries, those kinds of women would be considered "suspect"gold digging mistresses or even cold-hearted prostitutes.
The only exception to this rule is the minor percentage of affluent Thais who don't need the financial support of their children.."- Family Bonds of Steel -Over the millennia, Asians have survived overpopulation, poverty, and wars mainly by maintaining a culture that fosters firm familial bonds - bonds that are outrageously rigid and obligatory by Western standards.""How Dare She! Out of Desperation I Learned How to Forgive""Remember Who You Are!""Need to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read on. Parents setup their personal budgets assuming that their children will provide monthly financial support for them - in perpetuity. In this way, the familial bonds are further "strengthened. Vurce Publishing.C. After our "beer and bullshit" session, he realized that he'd been blind to the many cultural differences I pointed out.g. To them, it (attempting a Western/Asian relationship) is not a hopeless venture., subways, buses, and rock concerts, etc. He asked me over for a couple of beers.- Invisible Comfort Zones -"Personal Freedom and Independence" are very difficult concepts for Asian people to understand.In fact, as radical as this may sound to Westerners, the "act of sex" can be as significant to an Asian woman as brushing her teeth or doing her nails - just something that "has to be done" and might be "semi-fun.In the West, as soon as children become adults, they are expected to provide for themselves. In fact, it's a supreme way of showing affection and regarded as a highly private action.From an early age, especially in big cities, Asians are sandwiched together (in a way that would be totally illegal in the West) in cars, buses, vans, jeepneys, taxis, trains, motorcycle taxis, etc. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places.- "Significance" in a Nutshell -1. They will work at any job (including prostitution) until exhaustion to send money to their parents. Money is not just "money" in Asia; it can mean EVERYTHING (life/death, love/hate, marriage/bachelorhood, happiness/sadness, etc.- Claustrophobia? Not in Asia -From the tiny apartments filled with a dozen people to the overloaded elevators and jam-packed supermarkets, Asians take hordes of people and physical contact between strangers as a normal part of life. In the West, avoiding unwarranted physical contact is the respectable and courteous thing to do.This becomes a difficult situation for a Western man dating an Asian woman.It was plain to see that he was still trying to live his life, especially in the relationship department, as though he were still in the West." But what he believes as some strong signs of affection and interest may mean nothing at all to the woman.But unseen sectors of privacy do not exist in Asia. They will live miserly - eating cheap food and living in a stifling, small apartment - to send money to their parents. Sure, many Asian countries are becoming more and more "Westernized" every year; but ASIA IS STILL ASIA. Unless they go to college, the children are no longer the responsibility of the parents.C.- Respect or Dependency? -From an early age, Thais are taught to "fit" into a deeply ingrained system of cultural dependency."Also, as insensitive as it may sound to Westerners - because of the widespread poverty, lack of personal privacy, dissimilar sexual and social mores; and most importantly, the totally different view about money in Asia, etc.Last week, a distraught Farang (Thai: foreigner) friend of mine called me.
Children depend on their parents well into adulthood.Of course, getting the attention and immediate physical contact from a beautiful Asian woman is delightful and VERY significant to the Western man., privacy, money, and sex) AND decides to remain in Asia, he/she will be forever confused, disappointed, taken advantage of, or chronically paranoid and angry.)So don't be surprised when your Asian girlfriend expects you to "show your love" by supporting her, her parents, and her younger sister or brother.). Release Date: 2008. Confused, hurt, and angry, he didn't know why every relationship he's had in Thailand has ended up in shambles. He seeks out and permits entrance into his "comfort zone.Please Note: Although the words "Thai" and "Thais" appear frequently, the cultural differences depicted in this article can be generalized (justifiably) to most other Asian countries (e.- Wise Advice to all Westerners -Never get between an Asian woman and her family - YOU WILL LOSE. Others respect this zone and will enter only with the permission of its owner. They are turned down for jobs and are quite alienated from the people around them (Asians and Farangs alike).A Westerner not accustomed to this cultural fact can easily Auto Parts Molding Suppliers decide that all Asians are rude - disrespectful to persons and property. Because of conditioning and culture, children will go to great lengths to show their parents how much they love and respect them.Regardless of the dismal statistics, thousands of people continue to enter into a Western/Asian relationship every year. - Hope for Love? -The combined effect of all the cultural differences proves insurmountable to most - leading to the quick, but common, demise of the Western/Asian relationship. He had just broke-up with his "nth" girlfriend." Pantejo and published internet-wide, keyword: [title of article] or "Carl Pantejo")Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.There truly is hope for my distraught Farang friend (or any other Westerner who has fallen in love with an Asian).To be fully considered "Family," financial support is expected.- Affection or not, significant or not? -Because of this fundamental difference in the core belief of privacy, interpersonal relationships can be fraught with miscommunication.
They are professionally successful and make many friends. Accept it and move on (or fight it and attract misery).The following article outlines the points I raised during our discussion.""Experiences from 'The Flow' (9): New Girlfriend, New Life. Where there's a will, there's a way.g.But, whether the Thai adult is living with his parents or not, he/she will almost always give a portion of the monthly salary to the parents. For example, just because a woman is sitting close to a man (or in some kind of physical contact) does not automatically mean that they are romantic partners." PantejoFarang, Asia, Thai, culture, differences, core beliefs, money, sex, privacy, respect, crowds, mutual feeling. This is the unbreakable connection and respect for the parents., the Philippines, Malaysai, Cambodia, Vietnam, Indonesia, etc.Furthermore, if a suitor is equipped to support her and her family, an Asian woman will tolerate an unfulfilling relationship (for years or even a lifetime) with someone they absolutely DO NOT LIKE OR LOVE.It's not uncommon to see four or five people riding on tiny scooters.Note: If you want to read more about Asian and Western cultural differences, finding unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:"Experiences from 'The Flow': From Heartbreak to Happiness""Experiences from 'The Flow' (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity: FROM RELAPSE TO MIRACLES.The adult children enter the workforce and begin to support themselves."This woman MUST really like me," the man thinks.- The Big Mistake -The BIG MISTAKE that many Westerners make is this: In spite of their surroundings and personal interactions, they forget that Asia IS NOT the West.N. THEY ARE NOT OBLIGED TO SUPPORT THEIR AGING PARENTS.In a less dramatic fashion, younger siblings are treated (and supported) the same way as parents are. - an Asian woman will feel more "loved" by receiving some cash or an expensive gift instead of a satisfying romp in the sack!Again, this goes against the grain of most Westerners." (By Carl "J.3.And if the Westerner does not accept these basic cultural differences in most core beliefs (i. They just are.The differences are neither good nor bad.Farangs who never forget that they are foreigners and that "ASIA IS ASIA, NOT THE WEST" do well.), most Westerners still try to avoid any casual physical contact. He also saw that many of his relationship problems were the result of his cultural ignorance. Asians survive mainly through Family connections2.4.e.- Continued in "Experiences from 'The Flow" (11) -"Until next time, find 'The Flow' and jump in!"Your Friend in this Intrepid Journey called Life,Carl "J."Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that's good in life…"*Below is the tenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author.Stated bluntly, the vast majority (roughly 90%) of all Western/Asian relationships simply do not work out. In fact, anyone who has been in Asia for any length of time will tell you to chill out when you inevitably find a stranger comfortably sitting on YOUR parked motorcycle and behaving like it's his!That's just the way it is. Even when circumstances preclude maintaining this zone (e.Most Westerners have an invisible, 3' x 3' "comfort zone" of privacy around them.Farangs who stubbornly try to live their life in Asia as though it were the West suffer greatly. In their countries, those kinds of women would be considered "suspect"gold digging mistresses or even cold-hearted prostitutes.
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